One of the better lessons I learned from the book Sacred Marriage was to pray that God would make your wife the model of beauty.
An apt prayer in a culture steeped in the cult of self-image and supermodels.
The point behind Gary Thomas’ statement is two-fold: one, to steer us away from the temptation to compare our wives to a cover of a Cosmopolitan; two, to cultivate our sense of beauty on our wives–and not the other way around.
The same principle can be applied to how we view our pastors and preaching.
The Cult of the Superstar Pastor
With easy access to sermons online, and the subsequent rise of superstar preachers like Mark Driscoll, Matt Chandler, Steve Furtick and John Piper, we can easily slip into a pattern of frustration and disappointment with our very own pastors.
You might find yourself making statements like this:
“Why doesn’t he preach the gospel like Chandler?”
“He’s good–but he’s no Driscoll.”
“Mark Dever would never do that.”
Just like with supermodels and celebrities, what we don’t see is the dirty side of these pastors’ lives. We typically only see their most polished work. The stuff that is photoshopped so to speak.
Pray Like This for Your Pastor
Here’s what you need to do if you find yourself frustrated with your pastor: pray that God will make your pastor and his preaching the standard by which all preaching is to be judged.
Just like in a marriage you have to live with this man on a weekly–if not daily–basis. That means you have a commitment to support him. And the best way to do that is to pray for him. Praying for his preaching is a great place to start.
Then you need to repent. Repent for being critical, impatient and self-absorbed. Most of our frustration with our pastors lies in the fact that our needs are not being met.
It’s not the pastors job to meet your needs. His job is to faithfully preach the gospel.
Now, this isn’t a one-way street. You should expect from your pastor a faithful preaching of the whole counsel of God. If he’s not doing that then address it with him. Simply approach him and make your case.
And never gossip. Then you’ll just be a hypocrite.
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